Mar 15, 2024
We can learn a lot from other people's questions, especially since they can bring up ideas we may never have thought to explore or put forward ourselves. And if you’re in any kind of group therapy setting, the response from the guide, coach, or mentor, will likely be meant for you as well, not just the person posing the question. In that spirit, we invite you to join today’s conversation as we answer a series of questions submitted by you, our listeners! Tuning in you’ll hear thoughtful and considered responses to each query. We explore prompts that will help you answer the sacred question “How to know when it’s time to say goodbye”, options for establishing a fresh start with a long-term partner who hurt you in the past, what you need to understand about the concept of integration after unburdening, and much more. We hope you’ll join us for this expansive conversation as we explore listener questions and beyond!
Key Points From This Episode:
Details on the special training program being launched in October and how to get involved.
An overview of the exciting things happening in the CPTSD universe.
Answering your listener questions on CPTSD.
Old hurts in the context of CPTSD recovery, and a long-term relationship.
How to truly start fresh, and build a safe and nourishing relationship with the same partner.
Working internally with the younger wounded parts of ourselves.
Updating those internal parts so that they can see what our current reality is.
Prompts to help you answer the sacred question “How to know it’s time to say goodbye”.
The many steps you can take before concluding that it’s time to say goodbye.
An examination of what to do if your partner has narcissistic characteristics.
Acknowledging the good within them and building bridges with their protective parts.
Explaining the concept of integration after unburdening.
Taking a moment to honor the privilege of answering your listener questions.
Quotes:
“There's so much to learn from other people's questions, because sometimes there's questions posed that we would have never thought to ask.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [05:48]
“Sometimes older versions of us from our adolescent years will confuse our partner for our parent or will confuse our partner for an ex-lover or an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. And that needs to be cleaned up because that's also a distortion.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [15:21]
“There's a very high bar for saying goodbye, in my personal opinion, because there's so much that can be done. To reach that point where you say with authenticity, clarity, transparency, it's time for me to say goodbye.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [25:22]
“A human that doesn't see other humans as human has been hurt horrifically. At some deep cellular level, they've been rejected.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [29:34]
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